I have been drifting in my readings. In Mode One book, there is a recommended books section at the end.
I did pick one from a guy named Rom Wills: Nice Guys And Players... It is good but really not as good as Mode One. There is a lot of basic stuff but I got few good points out of it.
First, he classify the types of men in 2 categories (each having 2 sub-categories) Those that attracts women and those who don't. Of course, there is the dreaded nice guy. And the one who literally gets all the women with no effort at all.
He has a funny name for the type that all women lust for. It is the Mr. Goodbar. Whatever that means but he gaves many scenarios and stories. The principal takeaway is that he never ever chase women. Quite the opposite, and this his challenge, he has a hard time to settle down in a monogamous relation since women keep throwing themselves at him... He emanates some sexual charisma that is irresistible. Poor thing!!! ;-)
Hopefully, this is going to be my cup of tea during/after going through SM3. One of the question that I did wonder about the Mr. Goodbar is if he operates under Mode One. Living in a reality of sexual abundance, he certainly DONT fear to hurt a girl's feeling by saying what he thinks... And that may be part of his magnetism. OTOH, would that change anything if he express his desires or not (mode 2 like I am operating...)... I feel that even if he doesn't express his mind... he just basks in sexual energy around him... he plays with sexual tension with his non-verbal communication... and then the verbal mode doesn't really matter....
Like a new girl that I started to notice at the gym monday... We did chat a little bit during the workout... At the end, I ended up in the locker area with 3 girls. I was talking with one of them and the cute new girl for whom, I'm feeling something, she interrupted my conversation to contradict something that I just said. She seemed happy to create some tension. She was maybe 4 inches away from me.... I did look into her cute blue eyes and I did smirk... and I felt something... I didn't tell her what I had in mind about us... but if I did feel it... She probably felt it too.... beside... telling her that I want to have her in my bed in front of the 2 other girls would have been obnoxious... not mode 1...
That is some situation that I find myself often in... feeling things when interating with a woman. I guess that my job as a man is to escalate... Or I wonder if a Mr. Goodbar would have to do anything for the girl to make a move... Maybe he just continue to increase the sexual tension until the poor thing cannot take it anymore....
One possible scenario when I look back with the girls for whom I felt something for some time and then things seems wane out... Possibly like they were attracted but since I didn't escalate, make a move or create some situation... Their interest just dropped and they did move to something else...
I like journaling... You know when it starts, but you never know when it stops. The previous anecdote was totally unplanned. It just went of my head automatically.
Back to my post plan. The other thing that I did like about Nice guys and players book is this idea:
Women choose the man
Before approaching her. She already made her choice whether she is attracted or not to you and there is pretty much nothing you can do to change that. I wasn't sure at first. Like, it is conceivable that a woman may, at first, be neutral about you and as the interaction progress, she either gets a positive or a negative impression about how she would like to be with you. Lets stop thinking if it is true or not. I do find the idea useful. It kinda remove a lot of pressure out of you. You are not giving a performance anymore... There is nothing you can do to influence her choice. You have to say hello and move things forward if you find out that she choose you... Not sure that this is how it works for real, but that sounds like a very useful frame of mind to operate in... So, I'm going to adopt that new belief and see what good happens with it....
I did pick one from a guy named Rom Wills: Nice Guys And Players... It is good but really not as good as Mode One. There is a lot of basic stuff but I got few good points out of it.
First, he classify the types of men in 2 categories (each having 2 sub-categories) Those that attracts women and those who don't. Of course, there is the dreaded nice guy. And the one who literally gets all the women with no effort at all.
He has a funny name for the type that all women lust for. It is the Mr. Goodbar. Whatever that means but he gaves many scenarios and stories. The principal takeaway is that he never ever chase women. Quite the opposite, and this his challenge, he has a hard time to settle down in a monogamous relation since women keep throwing themselves at him... He emanates some sexual charisma that is irresistible. Poor thing!!! ;-)
Hopefully, this is going to be my cup of tea during/after going through SM3. One of the question that I did wonder about the Mr. Goodbar is if he operates under Mode One. Living in a reality of sexual abundance, he certainly DONT fear to hurt a girl's feeling by saying what he thinks... And that may be part of his magnetism. OTOH, would that change anything if he express his desires or not (mode 2 like I am operating...)... I feel that even if he doesn't express his mind... he just basks in sexual energy around him... he plays with sexual tension with his non-verbal communication... and then the verbal mode doesn't really matter....
Like a new girl that I started to notice at the gym monday... We did chat a little bit during the workout... At the end, I ended up in the locker area with 3 girls. I was talking with one of them and the cute new girl for whom, I'm feeling something, she interrupted my conversation to contradict something that I just said. She seemed happy to create some tension. She was maybe 4 inches away from me.... I did look into her cute blue eyes and I did smirk... and I felt something... I didn't tell her what I had in mind about us... but if I did feel it... She probably felt it too.... beside... telling her that I want to have her in my bed in front of the 2 other girls would have been obnoxious... not mode 1...
That is some situation that I find myself often in... feeling things when interating with a woman. I guess that my job as a man is to escalate... Or I wonder if a Mr. Goodbar would have to do anything for the girl to make a move... Maybe he just continue to increase the sexual tension until the poor thing cannot take it anymore....
One possible scenario when I look back with the girls for whom I felt something for some time and then things seems wane out... Possibly like they were attracted but since I didn't escalate, make a move or create some situation... Their interest just dropped and they did move to something else...
I like journaling... You know when it starts, but you never know when it stops. The previous anecdote was totally unplanned. It just went of my head automatically.
Back to my post plan. The other thing that I did like about Nice guys and players book is this idea:
Women choose the man
Before approaching her. She already made her choice whether she is attracted or not to you and there is pretty much nothing you can do to change that. I wasn't sure at first. Like, it is conceivable that a woman may, at first, be neutral about you and as the interaction progress, she either gets a positive or a negative impression about how she would like to be with you. Lets stop thinking if it is true or not. I do find the idea useful. It kinda remove a lot of pressure out of you. You are not giving a performance anymore... There is nothing you can do to influence her choice. You have to say hello and move things forward if you find out that she choose you... Not sure that this is how it works for real, but that sounds like a very useful frame of mind to operate in... So, I'm going to adopt that new belief and see what good happens with it....
