Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[Greenduck]

I've identified a block that runs deeper than fear well for me anyway, my lack of success is to do with the fact that women reduce my overall happiness. I've noticed that if anything remotely threatens my peace of mind, like when you're in a relationship or dating you start thinking about stuff and it can destroy you depending on your attachment, DMSI so far doesn't seem to have helped get rid of this but I've identified the block, it's simple hoes make me unhappy, whether it's because I'm overthinking shit or I'm trying to see if there's more. If only I genuinely was care free and women wouldn't bring me down my life would be great and full of them, this is why DMSI isn't doing its thing for me (design goal) it's working alright but don't want to say much rn.

Point 1. This is not something that runs deeper than fear. It is fear. You fear that "women will reduce my overall happiness".

Point 2. Identifying that block is part of FRM working on that fear.

Point 3. All females != "hoes". If "hoes" bring you down then find a woman worth having, or at least having sex with.

Based on what you're saying here, you have concluded that "all women are hoes who will make me unhappy", which is definitely a false belief based in faulty logic, which generates FEAR.

And by getting you to the point that you were able to identify that FEAR consciously, FRM IS doing it's thing. Keep going.

Taking this example, if we remove the fear, wouldn't the faulty belief still remain, thus creating the fear again at some point? If we are going forward with FRM & no H&C how will this faulty belief be dealt with? As an analogue, the fear is the tree, but the roots are the beliefs that remain which means the tree (fear) will keep growing after cutting it down.

What causes fear runs deeper than beliefs. When we remove the fear, the beliefs that interact with the cause of the fear to create fear (when it is triggeted by beliefs) are automatically adjusted by the removal of the underlying cause of the fear. If the tree is fear, then FRM results in the tree and all of its roots, branches, twigs, leaves, flowers and fruit evaporating. Ceasing to exist.

Just speculating, but guys I know who think that “girls are hoes” are often not in touch with themselves and failing to have a rewarding relationship with women. They are needy and when this isn’t reciprocated they get angry and blame the women. Sure there are asshole girls but when you blame everyone something may Ben wrong with you.

I guess It’s also based in fear. Fear of facing yourself amen regocnizing what you need to work with to become a healthy individual perhaps.