12-27-2018, 03:26 AM
Nice to hear your progress! Good job on working on yourself 
It's hard to compare to someone else, really. We, and life, is just way too complicated for that. I think that you should compare yourself to your version of yesterday, rather than the archetypical "alpha" that you have in mind, not saying that you shouldn't be inspired by other people and their positive traits, but rather trying to put them into a bigger perspective of your own character. Like you have a friend who doesn't buy other peoples bullshit but trust his own gut first and follows that, that would be a good trait to try to have in mind and become better at doing.
bugging down into slow movements and that kind of stuff, I don't really think that is helping. That is just making life harder for you than it has to be, and put stuff into your mind, occupying important space of enjoying life, thinking ahead, etc. If you always focus on moving slowly you will become a sloth rather than an alpha, lol! But try to see the bigger stuff, like instead of focusing on moving slowly, try think what make you nervous and move rapidly, and work on overcoming that. Like you are getting stressed by other people, anchor yourself in your body and your gut, trust that you have the situation under control, and carry out whatever you feel like you should do, rather than letting other people getting onto you.
I have worked much on my boundaries. Being aware when people are crossing them, and learning not to react to their attempts to do so (it often stems for their lack of self-control which they impose by trying to control you). Set boundaries, you are important and you have the right to your own space, your own opinions, your own power. Learn to go with that. Stand in your power and feel it!
Shannon probably can formulate it better
It's hard to compare to someone else, really. We, and life, is just way too complicated for that. I think that you should compare yourself to your version of yesterday, rather than the archetypical "alpha" that you have in mind, not saying that you shouldn't be inspired by other people and their positive traits, but rather trying to put them into a bigger perspective of your own character. Like you have a friend who doesn't buy other peoples bullshit but trust his own gut first and follows that, that would be a good trait to try to have in mind and become better at doing.
bugging down into slow movements and that kind of stuff, I don't really think that is helping. That is just making life harder for you than it has to be, and put stuff into your mind, occupying important space of enjoying life, thinking ahead, etc. If you always focus on moving slowly you will become a sloth rather than an alpha, lol! But try to see the bigger stuff, like instead of focusing on moving slowly, try think what make you nervous and move rapidly, and work on overcoming that. Like you are getting stressed by other people, anchor yourself in your body and your gut, trust that you have the situation under control, and carry out whatever you feel like you should do, rather than letting other people getting onto you.
I have worked much on my boundaries. Being aware when people are crossing them, and learning not to react to their attempts to do so (it often stems for their lack of self-control which they impose by trying to control you). Set boundaries, you are important and you have the right to your own space, your own opinions, your own power. Learn to go with that. Stand in your power and feel it!
Shannon probably can formulate it better
