Becoming Alpha Male - Is it really possible?

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The whole ‘alpha’ VS ‘beta’ thing seems like rather subjective ideals that many people have.

One person’s ‘alpha’ ideal, is another person’s ‘beta’.

Like, I often go to restaurants by myself. And, one person would see me eating by myself, and think “wow, that guy is extremely alpha. He must be really confident to be seen in public, eating at romantic restaurants by himself”.

The person next to that person, would also see me eating by myself, and think “that guy is such a pathetic beta. He can’t even get a girl to have dinner with. He is such a loser to eat by himself at a romantic restaurant”.

And I’m eating by myself, and thinking “Yum... yum... yum... This cuisine is amazing, and only $11 for a main course!” (I tend to get the cheap specials, and only drink the free water, at my favourite restaurant).


I’ve read quite a bit of ‘how to be alpha’ guides, along with lots of PUA crap, and it was unhelpful. If anything, it filled my mind with self-limiting, self-doubting BS.

I was seeing the seemly endless checklists of ‘what an alpha is’ and getting depressed, thinking that I will never be ‘alpha‘.

I’m naturally an introvert, who loves reading and learning, who is a bit nerdy, who prefers to stay sober, who would rather sit under a shady tree in the park (rather than parties / nightclubs), who only has a few friends and a small social circle, who often prefers to do things alone, etc.

Many people would consider me to be really ‘beta’. While some would consider me to be ‘alpha’, or something else entirely.


Nowadays, I do my best to forget about all that ‘alpha’ VS ‘beta’ nonsense, and just try my best to enjoy life, go off on my own adventures and listen to whatever sub that aligns with what I would like to experience. And I do my best to consciously focus on living life and letting my subconscious execute the sub.


I’m pretty sure that if you enjoy life, do your own thing, and listen to subs, then everything will work itself out, and things with naturally fall into place, in due time.


Edit: I do gym training, weightlifting, learn new things, meditation, healthy diet and listen to subs (one at a time). In the past, I’ve done affirmations, visualisation, psionics / energy training and a few random things.

Some people would consider gym training to make one more ‘alpha’. While others would consider it pointless. Some may even argue that it is ‘beta’, saying that one is trying to impress others (and try gain their approval / validation) with a ripped, muscular physique. But having more physical strength can be quite useful in some situations.

Same applies to other self-improvement activities.

At the end of the day, it should be whatever feels right and will benefit you.

I am writing from the state where we are more familiar what an alpha male is. Of course everyone thinks an alpha as many things and your example of a man eating alone perceived an alpha or not is perfect. It is perfect as, for me, it is nonsense and you cannot understand if someone is alpha in this case but others can very much analyse it in a split of a second as a good example of an alpha or not.

I am referring to obvious alpha traits or cases that you are either an alpha or not. Being in a relationship and your woman making whatever she wants of you is not alpha. Being bullied at work or any other situation and not facing it is not alpha. Not standing up for yourself when you need to because you are right or have rights or whatever the proper reason is not alpha. I am referring about such obvious cases.

This is why I mentioned that I now have a better and "healthier" version of what an alpha is in mind.

I personally don't care about the alpha checklists or what people say of what alpha is. I read these checklists so that I understand if the author writes quality material around what alpha is. Then I can read further his/her work but also contemplate from what I read and benefit from it. Getting to the root of a checklist's item like: "Beta males seek validation and approval from their peers." can help you assess yourself and find if this is true and if there is a past pattern that causes you not being confident or with low self-worth. I don't take information passively.

At the very end, I don't care about what other thinks of me, being an alpha or beta. I care about having these alpha qualities/traits that when needed will save me from a situation (stand up, face something, etc) or create a positive situation about me (be in confidence, assert myself, speak myself, etc)

Many times when I try to find solutions to definitions or how things work I look in nature. And if you look in nature you can find alpha males in animals and observe how they react. Like lions and tigers and cats.