Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

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What happens if she buys you dinner / drinks, and/or pays YOU to have sex with her?

And how often does it happens that she pays for everything included your transportation costs and so on? I mean in comparison to the opposite?

Globally, it is around 1% - 2% of women that pay for literally everything (according to what I’ve read).

My last 2 dates paid for everything, except transport. It was the same woman for both dates. Transport was like $2 (two bucks!) via bus (I met her locally at the venue).

I’m aware that this is likely a rare scenario though.


As for paying for sex / ‘sex work’... I am 100% okay with people exchanging money for sex, in a consensual arrangement (which is what the typical escort / prostitution situation is).

Personally, I would NOT pay / hire an escort for myself, unless as a last resort (meaning, if I have zero sex for the next few years, then I will consider escorts an option, IF I can afford it at the time).


Shannon makes a good point, that all dating costs resources (time or energy or money, etc).

Personally, I have a huge problem with men having to pay financially for her (in regular dating / non-prostitution situations). Mostly because I’m stuck in the vicious cycle of poverty / debt.



If I was a millionaire I would likely be happy to pay for everything. But my current financial circumstances prevents that, so I’m screening women out who expect men to pay financially, since I can’t afford it.

Time / energy is a much better option for me, in terms of ‘payment’, since I have a bit of time on weekends, and plenty of energy. But zero disposal income.

Someone else, who is rich / well off, would consider paying money to an escort to be ‘more cost effective’ than the time / energy of dating.

Another quick point, if she (non-prostitute) orders highly expensive things on the date (and expects the man to pay for it all), then an escort could possibly be financially cheaper (cost less money), as well as less time / energy.

That is very interesting discussion.

What turns off women is a man that pays/gives with expectation to receive something (like sex) in exchange.

If she deserves something and you give it with no return expectations and it isn't something big anyway like paying the coffee during a coffee date, well go for it...

Finally, I think it is wrong to reduce sex to only a financial decision. For me, if the service of an escort was only a dime. I would still not be interested in it... What I like is the whole seduction process... Pretty much unsatisfying like for a fisherman to go eat fish in a restaurant...