11-20-2018, 09:45 AM
(11-20-2018, 08:48 AM)Shannon Wrote:(11-20-2018, 08:22 AM)whome Wrote: I just finished the 35 day cool-off from my DMSI 3.2 run that didn't go far, and have been waiting for the new DMSI with FRM. However, I've been feeling a slow slide down into bodily pain/grief, which is, AFAIK, very fear-driven, and given that DMSI 3.3 is still a while away, I'm now wondering if USLM3 is a better option.
The notion of being sexually irresistible is tempting, but I could live without it. My fears/terrors are in the area of interacting with people and expressing myself, so perhaps if I pick my goals for USLM3 very carefully? If I pick "I keep encountering beautiful women who want casual but meaningful relationships" and "I find surprising connections with people I meet", then can I indirectly aim the FRM at removing the fears that I want it to?
The only thing that is really worrying me is that doing this is a three-month commitment, and at that point I'd probably jump to the new LTU and not get to play with DMSI, but right now it feels like the pain is pushing me to take some action and get started rather than wait.
You would have to be VERY careful about phrasing your goals, because the subconscious is absolutely literal. For "I keep encountering beautiful women who want casual but meaningful relationships", you have a contradiction... casual is not meaningful. It is casual. So you're likely to end up with relationships that are self contradictory and which drive you crazy. Or women who are and do...
And for "I find surprising connections with people I meet", what does that have to do with sex and relationships? You might start meeting people who went to your school, or long lost relatives.
You aren't going to finish making the necessary changes in less than about 3 months, but the LTU has USLM in it also.
If you go for USLM, I suggest you aim for goals that are more broad, like, "My goal is to improve my sex life, increase the frequency at which I have sex, and improve my ability to perform sexually."
@Shannon
I have been trying to phrase a goal I have for friendships. Basically I want to be able to meet more people in my age group and to have a meaninful relationships with those people as opposed to come and go relationships. Is there a certain way I should I phrase this goal?
