04-08-2012, 03:06 PM
Quote:I am interested in losing my virginity to a woman I love and feel really close to.
You may disagree but this is what I see here.
We are programmed to think of it like this, usually by females/mothers etc.
"Oh you have to love somebody to have sex".
And usually there is guilt and alot of other emotions around it.
So i'd explore whether you really want it like that or it is just what you have been taught.
Love is a pretty strong emotion and I believe doesn't develop for a while.
There is nothing wrong with having a physical relationship, you can connect with a woman without being in love with her, that develops over time.
Nearly all the girls i've been with i've slept with very quickly, some the first date, some the second, but never too long, it's just normal to me. And it doesn't mean anything about them (as I expect judgements on girls who 'are like that'), just that it is a natural thing and it also doesn't mean it is just one night, alot of these girls I have had relationships with for a long amount of time.
-Ben
