10-28-2018, 05:51 PM
(10-28-2018, 06:39 AM)mat422 Wrote: You know Ive been thinking about this and maybe Shannon has already got something in place, but I see a lot of guys having trouble with DMSI because the whole thing is taken too seriously. Maybe that's a side effect of fear, but the whole process should be enjoyable and carefree. Not this sort of calculated chess match where you analyze everything she does and try to figure out the best way to "win". I'm guilty of that a lot, but I think removing the fear will have the effect of all this coming more from a lighthearted place.
I haven’t run DMSI yet, but I’ve read a lot of the journals, and I have observed this too. I used to be pretty good on that front, but I can say that I never got anywhere with women when I was trying, thinking about strategy, or micro analyzing details. It just happened sometimes. I think folks might do better just running it and going about your lives and letting the behavioral changes happen. USLM2 certainly seems to work like that.
