10-19-2018, 05:08 PM
(10-19-2018, 07:56 AM)Shannon Wrote:Quote:I'm afraid if change comes this easily and smoothly that means I wasted years of my life being stubborn when I could have been happy.
What is there to fear from that, really? Is a rock not a rock? Is a tree not a tree? If you wasted all those years being stubborn, was that not what it was at the time? It was what it was, and it is that because that is the level you were on at the time. You are outgrowing that now. Looking back on it and framing it in a way that makes it somehow bad to grow is just another fear based effort not to grow.
You cannot go back, Mat. Once you have outgrown something, it's gone. And in our younger, less wise, less experienced, less aware states, we do things, all of us, that are not as wise, aware and common sense as we can do now. It is simply a part of the growth process. The process is designed that way. It is what it is.
Therefore, there is no shame in it, no guilt in it, and nothing to fear. Do you awaken and fear it because you have "wasted all that time sleeping"? No, because you know you needed the sleep. Likewise, what you are framing as a waste is really a necessary part of the process of growing. Without it, could you have had the experiences that brought you to where you are now?
It is what it is. Be at peace, and reframe the past as an opportunity to grow past your limitations, which you are now taking and making true. Be proud of that! You are making strides in growth that are amazing!
Thanks Shannon. This helps put things in perspective for me and I'm going to work on reframing these past experiences and what they meant in a positive way.
INFP
