Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[rayrocanaldo]

Shannon, I ask the following because it's one of my own issues and it seems to be one that many in this forum suffer from which is a major contributing factor to their lack of success in life or with women.

When it comes to a controlling/overprotective mother who uses guilt to control you...what's the best way to deal with them?

We can't just let go of our own mothers like we can do with toxic friends and people. So the only other choice is to just change ourselves so they finally end up respecting us based on the new vibration we put out. We change and the world around us changes mentality.

But what if we haven't been able to achieve the success or whatever necessary for them to change their attitude towards us? I remember reading your story which you mentioned how your family didn't respect you until you finally achieved success.

It just seems like a cruel test life has placed on a lot of us in order to force us to change. I wish I could just be myself and be accepted and respected..

After reading this post, I had to research a bit about overprotective parents and found this article online.

https://wehavekids.com/parenting/Childre...or-Failure

I can relate myself to the traits almost 100%. Take a look at some of the traits that the children of overprotective parents tend to develop:

-Dependent on Teachers
-Labeled a Difficult Student
-Lacking in Maturity
-Sense of Entitlement
-Easy Target for Bullies
-Labeled Misfits
-Academically Ahead, Socially Behind
-Lacking in Knowledge of Age-Appropriate Life Situations
-Outcasts and Pariahs
-Dependent and Risk-Adverse
-Socially Unrelatable
-Likely to Become Unhinged
-Incapable of Living Independently
-Unable to Make Decisions

I can check every single one of the above points.

After starting to use IML sub a year ago, my paradigm shifted. Specially DMSI entirely changed the route that I was taking in my life. I'm still obsessed with my past and my parents' teachings that made me have those traits. This past weekend was a tough one for me since I was totally immersed in the thought of why I'm not good with my money. I've had this job for 14 months and I'm getting paid well but still haven't been able to pay off my debts. I'm not aware about spending money and buy random things, go on travels, and eat out a lot. And every once in a while something bad happens randomly and I lose a hectic amount each time. Like this Saturday, a deer hit my car when I was driving on the highway and it will cost me about $1500 to repair my car. As a kid, I was never showed the way of making my own decisions and handling my own problems without my parents advice (more like orders). I was told that money is evil and we shouldn't make it our priority. Since my parents were kind of well off, so I had the entitlement of spending their money as my own ("sense of entitlement" point checked). So, this money issue stems from my early childhood.

At this point, I'm not sure if IML subs are helping me or not. I've given DMSI 9 months (a month break after as well) and I've been on MLS for the month and a half. The only thing I have gone through is having these deeply rooted issues come to the surface and making me anxious, fearful, loathing, sometimes depressed about my own life.

I think I need to see a therapist because I've been in a severe melancholy lately.

Tiger this is interesting. I was raised by overprotective parents. I am socially inept, have zero social life, am considered an outcast, i cant make decisions, etc....This article is accurate.

Dang boi! I know how it feels when your classmates bully you for your mother showing up after the school in 9th grade. I know how it feels when you are about to step into your 11th grade and you are wishing that your father doesn't walk into your very first class with you. I know how it feels when you want to play with your friends but your father wants to be standing by the field and watching you play when you would have to go through the ridicules by your peers. I wish I could remove these memories for good.

Dang man! I feel you. Once I reached age 18, that's mostly when I became an outcast. Its also when I started getting into personal growth. I didnt care that I was ostracized that much. But man, I've experienced some rough stuff. I was in math class and a girl that hated me started yelling loudly that I tried to say hi at her. She said a lot of things. I felt humiliated and embarassed. I am sure everybody was laughing at me behind my back because they were behind me. Even the teacher was giving me angry looks. Mind you this is in an adult high school. I still hate her to this day. Not to mention the fact that people were always laughing at me, avoiding me, giving me dirty looks. All of that happened in 1 semester. I think it was because no one would talk to me and I had no friends. The same girl once sat next to me and started acting physically aggressive. Like stomping her feet at me when I would write in my textbook. Giving me very prolonged angry looks, looking back at her friends with a look of "look at how weird he is". I remember sitting in front of her and then looking back a few times and then she changed places. I was sitting in front and the same girl stood in front of me with an angry look but she was looking at her friend. You would she was giving I hate this guy look. She even said nobody talks to me so even if guys start talking to me, she wont talk to me. So much sadness but still during that time even when she was doing that I would always think about what is the best way to change my mindset? Alot of other things have happened like guys laughing at me, I was walking up the stairs and I was next to a girl and she ran away up the stairs and the girl behind me acting repulsed by me. She even started acting angry at me because I once started talking to her. She didnt verbally abuse me but she acted crazy angry. Hopefully one day I will be great and I will show them how pathetic they are in comparison to me.