10-14-2018, 05:14 PM
(10-14-2018, 03:06 PM)AbundanceCH Wrote: Shannon, I ask the following because it's one of my own issues and it seems to be one that many in this forum suffer from which is a major contributing factor to their lack of success in life or with women.
When it comes to a controlling/overprotective mother who uses guilt to control you...what's the best way to deal with them?
We can't just let go of our own mothers like we can do with toxic friends and people. So the only other choice is to just change ourselves so they finally end up respecting us based on the new vibration we put out. We change and the world around us changes mentality.
But what if we haven't been able to achieve the success or whatever necessary for them to change their attitude towards us? I remember reading your story which you mentioned how your family didn't respect you until you finally achieved success.
It just seems like a cruel test life has placed on a lot of us in order to force us to change. I wish I could just be myself and be accepted and respected..
How do you deal with her? Don’t. Realize that the way she treats you comes from a problem with her, not a problem with you. Keep her at enough of a remove that her behavior doesn’t harm you until she realizes what she has been doing, and indicates that she is ready to deal with you as a full adult person.
I barely spoke to my mother for seventeen years until she called one day and said she realized how crappy she had been to me. Now we get along really well. Remember, you always have the right to protect yourself from the damage that other people’s mental crap causes.
