09-15-2018, 05:22 PM
So I'm flying out to California for my job next week. A few years ago this would have left me a nervous wreck. But nowadays I only feel a little anxiety, nothing crazy. But it's made me realize when I don't know how to do something or I'm unfamiliar with it, I go into panic mode a bit. I sort of freeze up and lose my ability to think things through in a more calm rational manner. I've learned the key to dealing with this is being very aware of when it first spikes and remember to breathe and calm myself down. It's a matter of catching it early before I fall into an anxious thought loop.
I suspect this is how I've been reacting to DMSI as well. Getting stuck in that fight or flight state and not doing enough to calm myself down from it. Possibly even making it worse by trying to analyze the fear and think my way out of it too much. I think what it is is that the fight or flight reaction is a reaction to perceived danger. So when I go to calm myself it feels like it's a bad idea because whatever danger I've been perceiving will happen to me once I let my guard now. Highly irrational I know, but my life doesn't have a track record of being rational. Basically I feel like all my life I've prepared for bad stuff to happen and about 90% of the time it never does. The only thing that really happens is I make myself afraid and anxious by being too worried about what COULD come about vs the actual situation.
I suspect this is how I've been reacting to DMSI as well. Getting stuck in that fight or flight state and not doing enough to calm myself down from it. Possibly even making it worse by trying to analyze the fear and think my way out of it too much. I think what it is is that the fight or flight reaction is a reaction to perceived danger. So when I go to calm myself it feels like it's a bad idea because whatever danger I've been perceiving will happen to me once I let my guard now. Highly irrational I know, but my life doesn't have a track record of being rational. Basically I feel like all my life I've prepared for bad stuff to happen and about 90% of the time it never does. The only thing that really happens is I make myself afraid and anxious by being too worried about what COULD come about vs the actual situation.
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