Do looks and status matter ?

[rayrocanaldo]

That is shallow stuff. And if you follow shallow stuff you will get shallow people with whom you will have shallow relationships.

If you are looking to become satisfied with your life on a deeper lever, look elsewhere.

Hunting for validation (which ultimately status-seeking behavior is) is a game with no end, and with just temporary emotional rewards.

Who said we're hunting for validation? We're not. This is just BS shaming and judging. Also, not everyone wants to be a celibate deep monk.

You are getting defensive and getting into a victim role telling me that I am shaming you, when I am not. I am just saying that status is shallow stuff, and you need other people to even have status. Thus, it shouldn't be something that you strive for and "use", rather an effect of your other motivations and actions.

And regarding the monk thing, I don't think that withstanding from going after a girl's for a while is really a bad thing. It makes you get perspective. I have even read about people on the forum doing AM following this course. But celibacy for a longer time isn't healthy. We have the need for intimacy and connection with other people, but when you look for this connection and not just self-centered sexual intercourse things will become much more pleasant and natural.

Hmmm...interesting. I want connection with women. The type cory skyy talks about. I only experienced a connection with a woman once in my life. We didnt hook up, we didnt kiss or anything and she was hot. The rest of the girls I dated, I liked them but I never experienced much feelings for them. Sometimes I wondered why dont I feel something and why do I feel nothing all the time ?

Well human beings connect through our emotions. If you haven't been used to getting in touch with your own emotions, there will be hard for you to get a real connection with others. The easiest way to do this is simply to learn to relax. Try to meditate, do stuff the relax you and get to know your emotions. What make you laugh? Build on that. I can also recommend you to look at trauma releasing exercises, which is a great exercises to help your body to relax. You will feel a lot of stuff, but just let it come forward and enjoy getting to know yourself

Nah no need. I dont really like those techniques. I have something else I do that I like and so far it is working and I am starting to feel emotions and feelings.