Do looks and status matter ?

[SargeMaximus]

That is shallow stuff. And if you follow shallow stuff you will get shallow people with whom you will have shallow relationships.

If you are looking to become satisfied with your life on a deeper lever, look elsewhere.

Hunting for validation (which ultimately status-seeking behavior is) is a game with no end, and with just temporary emotional rewards.

Who said we're hunting for validation? We're not. This is just BS shaming and judging. Also, not everyone wants to be a celibate deep monk.

You are getting defensive and getting into a victim role telling me that I am shaming you, when I am not. I am just saying that status is shallow stuff, and you need other people to even have status. Thus, it shouldn't be something that you strive for and "use", rather an effect of your other motivations and actions.

And regarding the monk thing, I don't think that withstanding from going after a girl's for a while is really a bad thing. It makes you get perspective. I have even read about people on the forum doing AM following this course. But celibacy for a longer time isn't healthy. We have the need for intimacy and connection with other people, but when you look for this connection and not just self-centered sexual intercourse things will become much more pleasant and natural.

Lol, nah.