08-21-2018, 11:04 AM
(08-21-2018, 09:59 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(08-21-2018, 08:54 AM)AriGold Wrote:(08-21-2018, 06:48 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: It is beneficial to have a "I'll get every girl" mindset because you won't BS yourself when you're messing up. It's too easy to say "oh it wasn't a mutual attraction" as a cop out when you fail with a girl.
In sales I do the same thing, my goal is to get everyone. Of course that's not possible, but it forces me to keep improving and keep doing the best I can.
As long as it's not a desperate "I have to get every girl, if one is not into me then my whole world collapses" mindset it's ok.
Obviously.
(08-21-2018, 08:54 AM)AriGold Wrote: More an abundance mindset "if she chooses differently then she misses out, not me. I can also get the next one." But it has to really be abundance and not an excuse to not go for that girl. You will feel the difference when you are alone at home. Do you feel bad alone? Scarcity mindset. Do you feel good and enjoy also your time alone because you know this is not always? Then it's abundance.
Forget all that. Abundance, scarcity, throw that stuff in the metaphysical trash.
All that matters are results. Are you getting them or not? Then be unafraid to admit the truth to yourself and courageous enough to meet the challenge.
One day we're all gonna be dead. All that matters is if you had the life YOU wanted, not if you felt abundance or not.
Just because you don't understand it, does not mean it is trash. It is about mindset. Is mindset also trash? Is everything trash that is not written in your PUA books?
If you live the life you want, you feel abundance.
It is more to be outcome independent and see beyond that. I mean if you get results on the outside or not, you still should be positive about your future expectations. When I read your journal it is mostly like "oh, I got IOIs, it is working, I am a god" and the next day "no woman looked at me, I do everything wrong". You are focusing upon the results only. That reminds me of the Simpsons episode where Lisa showed Homer a stone and told him that stone drives lions away. Homer was not sure to believe that. She said "do you see a lion?" He looks around... No lion. So that stone must be working and he then wants to buy that stone...
