Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[Zeroxmachina]

I always make a girl feel happy.

I am and have been told that im one of the funniest confident men some know (from uni) and i know this to be true.

I am very quick witted and able to make most situations funny and I dont do it to impress anyone its just something I do (perhaps it began for the need for validation or attention or approval who knows).

Now when i see a girl I like I try and play it cool and calm and make her laugh.

Guess what, im making her FEEL really good, really happy. So anyone saying its about how you make a girl feel well guess what im making them feel great....

BUT these girls have already made an impression about me based on my looks. Based on my grooming, my clothes/dress sense/style, my walk, my posture. They have already in a split second figured out if im their type or not.

ALL of these women will love harrison ford or the rock - no matter how dead their personalities are (and both bore the **** outta me lol) but because they are good looking guys they fall for them and this goes for any good looking guy.

If i was good looking and then had good dress, style, and my wit etc boom i would be unstoppable im sure.

ITS ALL ABOUT LOOKS and thats as clear as day.

Office romances, casual flings and all these sex based relationships happen due to looks also known as lust.

How do you show your sexual intent to these girls that find you funny and confident?

sorry i never saw this till now.

I will ask them to go for a meal and they will tell me either that were just friends or that im such a cool respectable nice guy etc.

If I try anything else then I could scare them or come across too creep sleazy I think.

I always get the im only a friend response anyway even though before that theyre laughing away etc.

Its 100% to do with looks.

Nah, in the real world there are dudes that just have 'it'. Whatever it is to women, which maybe not be anything more that a natural version of what DMSI is trying to achieve. I know a few guys like this; they aren't tall, handsome, rich, or even especially that funny, but they just have a way with the chicks. Literally one of them looks like a beaver, short arms, chubby, short, and the teeth, however he gets the chicks. You keep thinking it's about looks, it's not. That however does serve as a limiting belief that's a comfortable (and familiar) place to rest when things don't go the way ya want. And furthermore, don't ask women what it is they want, or like, they don't actually know, it's more important to find out what their actions are, not the ideas they have in their heads. With the right approach, 99% of women can and will 'change their minds'. Of course when you're already someone's type, things go smoother and require less effort, but it's not the end of the world if you aren't. As I've said, females are 90% mental, appeal to that, and the eyes will see what you want them to. Dating sites are trash in terms of realistic selection processes, people are generally there to get laid, or form long term relationships, and because it's the internet, they feel they can be more superficial. It's possible to approach a woman in real life with way better results that might give you the cold shoulder on an app.

Your living in cuckoo land. Looks do matter the initial physical chemistry does matter. I have never seen super hot girls with fat ugly guys unless they are good diggers or the guys are celebs.

Nah I live in a land where I get laid and don't lean on excuses because I actually understand women, your results may vary though. I dunno, it may be because I actually have 'game' or whatever it's called. What do I know though I'm just a person that got hit by a semi truck,maybe that's hot to women *shrugs*, what I'm noticing however is how dull the people who complain about looks seem to be, one thing women do tell me is that most of guys they meet can't really hold a conversation. For the thousandth time I will say this: women are MENTAL creatures. They operate from the mind and emotional state,period. Someone said women liked the Beatles cause of looks, no women liked the Beatles because they were the Beatles, if they were just 4 guys walking down the street no one would think twice about them. Of course a boring guy needs to rely on looks, he has nothing else. Nor did I say that they don't matter at all, I said in actuality they are secondary to what sort of feelings and thoughts you can create. If you don't know how to talk to women, hell yeah you'll have to rely on being 'hot' or whatever, but don't sit here and tell me it's "100% about looks" when I know it isn't. Also maybe you folks should actually do some research on "belief systems" and "limiting beliefs", You're already on a sub forum but the type of comments I see on a regular basis indicate a general lack of knowledge of the subconscious and why and how it directly creates the reality we experience. Sheesh...