08-10-2018, 03:52 AM
So two things happened to me yesterday. One, that problem I was having at work turned out to be a lot simpler. As soon as I started relaxing and stopped worrying about it being incredibly difficult it stopped being like that. Two, I had this girl from hs message me on Instagram apologizing about being an ass to me. Lately I just feel like reality is a lot more fluid and things line up for me to work.
One thing I'm still working on though is breaking this cycle of initial attraction and then losing interest when talking with women. It seems like all my prior experiences fuel this paranoia in me of needing to capitalize on that initial attraction and "win her over" vs just doing my thing and seeing if she wants to come along. I think the main issue here is I see the intital attraction as a fluke or something and not a solid indication of her wanting me. Which I guess just goes back to me needing to accept women can be attracted to me in the first place. I see this pattern now and I'm willing to change it to have that initial attraction mean something much more than just a fluke or luck.[/quote]
One thing I'm still working on though is breaking this cycle of initial attraction and then losing interest when talking with women. It seems like all my prior experiences fuel this paranoia in me of needing to capitalize on that initial attraction and "win her over" vs just doing my thing and seeing if she wants to come along. I think the main issue here is I see the intital attraction as a fluke or something and not a solid indication of her wanting me. Which I guess just goes back to me needing to accept women can be attracted to me in the first place. I see this pattern now and I'm willing to change it to have that initial attraction mean something much more than just a fluke or luck.[/quote]
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