DMSI-3.2A

[findingme]

It's just fear. Lack of motivation is a tactic my mind would use all the time. You have to ignore it, don't feed it by dwelling on it.

I didn't knew that Lack of Motivation or Interest can be cause from fear.. Cause Tbh right now I don't feel as if I am in fear mode or anything but maybe it's deep inside..

You sure about this buddy.?

Positive. It's a common misconception that you'll actively feel fear. If you did you'd be able to identify it and move past it. But what the mind does is disguise it as other things. Lack of motivation is an excuse, it's like telling yourself you can't keep moving forward because you don't have the motivation. It puts you in this state of limbo where you keep waiting for motivation to appear, but it never will because then you'd move past fear. So the lack of motivation continues. Lack of interest is another one. Notice how some guys on this forum start thinking they don't really care about women, then they think it's an improvement or advancement? When really it's fear masquerading as an improvement. People do this all the time in other areas of life too.

My point is 90% of the time you're not going to directly notice fear. And the longer you've had fear in your life, the more you've already got elaborate mental routines to constantly redirect you from actually facing fear and moving past it.

That's brilliant Mat. I realized today (on UD) I'm looking for old norms and hideouts, since when I used to go there regularly I found "comfort" in it. I noticed this simultaneously while wanting and needing to take responsibility in my life, and internally I felt resistance Fear does have elaborate defenses, so thank you for describing that. I wasn't recognizing it.