DMSI 3.2 it's official

[Shannon]

Thanks Shannon. I've long suspected this is my core issue, but it's good to hear outside perspective. I guess I've been tip toeing around the issue. The thing is for me since I have that low self worth I tend to reject attempts to raise it.It's been a vicious cycle where I try to give myself validation but then because of the worthlessness I feel I don't deserve it. To be honest I probably haven't been diligent enough in reinforcing my own self worth. It's wavered between "nah you're over thinking this" to "why should you feel good about who you are?"

It's like it doesn't feel right to validate myself or my worth. I need to have a why. But intrinsic self worth doesn't really have a why, it just is. And I think that's why it's so hard to get myself on board.

This ties into one of the things I have been telling you guys for a long time. You can choose to set your sense of self worth according to what others think, or according to what you think.

If this is true, then you can set it anywhere on a scale of 0 to 100%. Why would you set it at anything but high when anything else is self defeating and self destructive?

I'm not saying you should become an arrogant ass over it. I'm saying, be healthy! Value yourself. Care about yourself. Love yourself. Treat yourself well. Take care of yourself!

Think about it this way. What if thew way you think about yourself and value yourself right now was how you were to value other people? Would you be asking "Why should I value them at all?"

When you say these things to yourself, try considering it from a different perspective like that.

But we aren't any closer to answering the question... why do you believe you have no value?