(05-27-2018, 04:05 PM)dissonance Wrote: So... a question for all...
If i wanted to break things off with her, HOW should I say it? WHAT should I say? Shes texting me everyday and seems to be realllllly chasing me hard. I feel somewhat smothered. Or maybe it's because I'm not that attracted to her. How do I break it off in a way that won't hurt her? She says shes been ghosted numerous times in the past and also been cheated on etc, so I don't wanna just become another one of those assholes in her books.
Also, she wants to see a movie 7 days from now. Should I just go to that with her before I break it off? Would that hurt her less or more? Like just having sex with her twice then breaking it off I feel like would seem i just used her for sex (or am i wrong?). But if I go see the movie, it'd be like i at least tried hanging out with her some (i said friends with benefits in our first chats), but didn't feel enough chemistry.
Ask yourself what type of relationship you really want from this chick. Don't think about her wants right now. Just think about what YOU truly want from this girl. Once you've identified it, tell her what you want. If all you want to do is be a FWB, so be it. If you want nothing else to do with her, so be it. Just let her know. Ideally it would have been better for you to have told her already what kind of relationship you wanted so that she knew from the get go what was going down but it's all good. Live and learn. I'd at least try to call her/meet up in person to deliver the news.
Another thing you need to ask yourself is this: am I creating reasons to NOT be with this woman in order to avoid executing DMSI? You've only had sex once, finally got it a 2nd time, and you're losing interest. Is that unheard of? Absolutely not. MANY guys/gals have felt the same way so what you're expressing isn't new. I just want YOU to make sure that part of your subconscious is trying to f*ck you over.
Good luck man, and congrats on getting #2. Hopefully you'll have many more in the coming months!
