05-26-2018, 07:28 AM
(05-25-2018, 07:36 PM)findingme Wrote: I just didn't know that I cared. And that's why I'm feeling sad now myself.
In my experience empathy and compassion are a sign of strength and maturity. The ability to resonate and share in the experience of another requires the strength of vulnerability, for no weak man can be truly vulnerable. But you displayed empathy in relating to his vulnerability and issues and went there with him. You also displayed compassion in offering solutions and not just commiserating with him in his issues.
IT TAKES A BIG MAN TO CARE FOR SOMEONE OTHER THAN HIMSELF.
It may not be a popular opinion of masculinity, but I've seen more people affected by stepping into an experience with them and voicing the possibility of something different in the place of their deepest and darkest beliefs, instead of trying to tell them what to do. Like that will ever help.
I'm impressed with what you did. If any of the experience of his issues remains, let go of them or take time to process them. You don't want those "following you home." and confusing his "stuff" as your own.
