Regarding my daughter, I did contact my ex requesting my daughter call me. And she did. The full story is a little embarrassing, but I'll spill.
I had rode with a driver last Friday who's immature, imo. He has a kid from a prior relationship, and last Friday he told me how he'd enforced contact with his child via law enforcement. After calling the baby's momma numerous times to speak to his child and her not answering, someone let him know if he did this again and called the cops, they'd send cars out to investigate why. He did this, 3 cop cars showed up with lights blazing, and it scared the s*** out of his ex. Anytime he called now, she quickly handed her child the phone so she wouldn't have to deal with that again.
I thought of this, but only since I was angry, blaming this on my ex. But it did make me realize I had rights to speak to my daughter. She's only 13, not 20. I texted my ex requesting she tell our daughter to call me. She replied in minutes saying she did. But she didn't call. 20 minutes later I called my ex, and she answered. She said both of them were tired (it was close to 9PM), but she'd tell her again. My daughter called 5 minutes later, very tired. I stayed on less than 30 seconds, as she sounded like she was half asleep.
I was embarrassed since I imagined doing the law enforcement thing if my ex snubbed me (all imagined, again). And not really. Revenge and resentment can prompt some ugly punitive thoughts towards people. I realized this beforehand. Resentment still resides in me though, for I don't want to forget this tactic.
Plenty of room for DMSI to work in me here.
I had rode with a driver last Friday who's immature, imo. He has a kid from a prior relationship, and last Friday he told me how he'd enforced contact with his child via law enforcement. After calling the baby's momma numerous times to speak to his child and her not answering, someone let him know if he did this again and called the cops, they'd send cars out to investigate why. He did this, 3 cop cars showed up with lights blazing, and it scared the s*** out of his ex. Anytime he called now, she quickly handed her child the phone so she wouldn't have to deal with that again.
I thought of this, but only since I was angry, blaming this on my ex. But it did make me realize I had rights to speak to my daughter. She's only 13, not 20. I texted my ex requesting she tell our daughter to call me. She replied in minutes saying she did. But she didn't call. 20 minutes later I called my ex, and she answered. She said both of them were tired (it was close to 9PM), but she'd tell her again. My daughter called 5 minutes later, very tired. I stayed on less than 30 seconds, as she sounded like she was half asleep.
I was embarrassed since I imagined doing the law enforcement thing if my ex snubbed me (all imagined, again). And not really. Revenge and resentment can prompt some ugly punitive thoughts towards people. I realized this beforehand. Resentment still resides in me though, for I don't want to forget this tactic.
Plenty of room for DMSI to work in me here.
I want to be FREE!
