(05-03-2018, 08:49 AM)DavisMind91 Wrote: Now's the time learn how to balance. Chances are you'll have to do some testing with your kindness. The people who don't return it should start to be eased out of your life, or you should find creative ways to set up win-win situations. That'll make it pretty fun to separate the leeches from the true friends.
I'm trying to find that balance for most of my adult life now
There are many people that have been eased out of my life, from kicking them out to cutting ties or slowly starving them out. They never understand. But that doesn't matter. So far everyone turned into a leech sooner or later, to the point that I am not having a closely knit social network anymore. Especially noticeable since starting with these subs some years ago, which made/make me weed them out like a master gardener.
But since the one-sidedness of energy transfer does persevere and permeate even my lesser social relationships, it seems to be something about myself that needs to change. I am not sure if balancing is enough. I am waiting for my epiphany.
Turning it into win-win sounds interesting though. Maybe I need to find a way to ensure a return of energy for everything I do. But that does sound tiresome, calculating and like being a major pain in the ass
But on the other hand I never learned to ask for favors or help from anyone. I don't want to rely on anybody. I see that as a weakness. But maybe I have to learn just that.
Food for thought. Thanks DavisMind.
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