03-11-2018, 07:28 AM
(This post was last modified: 03-11-2018, 08:29 AM by Determined.)
Dude, I'm so glad for you to be having those realisations.
Congratulations.
You've discerned for yourself the role the ego plays in limiting the self and you're absolutely right in identifying how rampant it becomes in incompetent people. Remember, it's role is to keep you and your personal identity safe. It's a vital part of the survival mechanism designed to protect your concept of self. The more incompetent a person is, the bigger their ego will be to protect their fragile sense of self. This is notable in the Dunning- Kruger effect.
To give you an example: Women will often conclude that a guy is "gay" (atleast some part of her mind) if she's offered herself to him and he's rejected her to spare her any negative emotions.
The problem with the ego is this; one of two things happen when confronted with uncomfortable truths about ourselves
1) The ego spikes up and the person doesn't learn anything - remaining as they are albeit unaffected emotionally
2) The ego is disengaged and the person takes the learning on board and improves.
You've nailed it by identifying ownership and self acceptance as necessary precursors to outgrowing this condition. Stick with it. I'm rooting for you!
Congratulations.
You've discerned for yourself the role the ego plays in limiting the self and you're absolutely right in identifying how rampant it becomes in incompetent people. Remember, it's role is to keep you and your personal identity safe. It's a vital part of the survival mechanism designed to protect your concept of self. The more incompetent a person is, the bigger their ego will be to protect their fragile sense of self. This is notable in the Dunning- Kruger effect.
To give you an example: Women will often conclude that a guy is "gay" (atleast some part of her mind) if she's offered herself to him and he's rejected her to spare her any negative emotions.
The problem with the ego is this; one of two things happen when confronted with uncomfortable truths about ourselves
1) The ego spikes up and the person doesn't learn anything - remaining as they are albeit unaffected emotionally
2) The ego is disengaged and the person takes the learning on board and improves.
You've nailed it by identifying ownership and self acceptance as necessary precursors to outgrowing this condition. Stick with it. I'm rooting for you!
