02-07-2018, 11:56 PM
Figured I should elaborate a bit on things happening that may be TID related. Mostly in sales:
- People telling me they have no time or other things to try and gain frame control
- I made a sale last night but the entire time the guy and his son made fun of me and teased me till I tuned out and went on my phone. Then they seemed to dial back but still, definite frame battle or low-social status or betaization
- Women try to snatch the frame away (and succeed)
Most of these things in sales I don't know how to handle in a way that will not escalate the problem further. You never want to get into fights with customers as you'll lose, but things like this have me thinking "if this is what I can expect being a high-value male, I'd rather not be since it'll be a 'no-win' situation for everyone involved"
It's like interactions at the door are sometimes more about the frames than whether the customer wants/needs the product or not.
Which is fascinating since it means that I could theoretically get so good that I could sell to people who didn't need or want it, but then that's just harmful.
So it always comes back to: why can't we put the frame/posturizing aside and get down to the REAL issue which is: do they want/need it? If so, let's get it done.
But definitely, more and more, frame control battles and shit like that are popping up.
- People telling me they have no time or other things to try and gain frame control
- I made a sale last night but the entire time the guy and his son made fun of me and teased me till I tuned out and went on my phone. Then they seemed to dial back but still, definite frame battle or low-social status or betaization
- Women try to snatch the frame away (and succeed)
Most of these things in sales I don't know how to handle in a way that will not escalate the problem further. You never want to get into fights with customers as you'll lose, but things like this have me thinking "if this is what I can expect being a high-value male, I'd rather not be since it'll be a 'no-win' situation for everyone involved"
It's like interactions at the door are sometimes more about the frames than whether the customer wants/needs the product or not.
Which is fascinating since it means that I could theoretically get so good that I could sell to people who didn't need or want it, but then that's just harmful.
So it always comes back to: why can't we put the frame/posturizing aside and get down to the REAL issue which is: do they want/need it? If so, let's get it done.
But definitely, more and more, frame control battles and shit like that are popping up.
