myth's Belated DMSI 3.1 Journal

[myth]

I personally find mutual masturbation useful (and fairly integral) during foreplay

I don't think it would include that, as it's a sexual act with someone else and not as a way to escape.

Understandable, but, to be clear, every example I gave (outside of the first sentence) was a non-escapist sexual act involving someone else, either remotely or locally, that furthered or supplemented the relationship in some way. Wasn't talking about what someone does in complete isolation.

"I don't think it would" is, unfortunately, not a solid enough reason for me to go along with removing partner-participating options from a healthy sex life, including ones that Shannon himself said would be cut out. For me, this is not overly dissimilar to if DMSI started trying to decide which traits we get to find sexually attractive. It's simply a matter of which decisions get to be mine and which options are script-defined rather than user-defined.

(Also, since it might be called into question by others, I'm hardly running away from DMSI, the Wall, or a higher version number, and I have been executing on 3.1. I'll definitely return to 3.1 after my SE run, even if I don't return to 3.2. If a sexiness sub doesn't try to tell me which sex acts I can and can't do with my partners, especially preexisting partners of over ten years, I'll happily use 3.2, but how DMSI is designed isn't up to me, so I'll be deciding from the options that I'll have, not the options that I might think should exist or hope might work the way that I want them to. The "not-hype" updates may be funny, but I'm really grateful for Shannon telling us what we're nearly-blindly agreeing to in the pursuit of sexiness.)