Ok I start to see clear signs that I am getting better. I still am sensitive to some people, especially my mom who have no sense of boundaries whatsoever, but instead of seeing her as the devil and en evil person, I start to see her as "just" a pain in the ass. Still a pain, but not as serious as before.
An example:
We are having dinner and afterwards I feel really tired, I go up to my room and she just have to follow into my room and tell me that I need to change the bedding (linnens, etc) in a way that it "needs to be done right now". But now, I have the strength to tell her that "I need to be alone right now for a while", not at all in an aggressive way, just telling the facts, while she become upset and get all "OOOH I AM SO SORRY" and rushes out from the room. This is just an example but it's pretty explanatory for how she is on a regular basis, constantly taking things personally, talking about how everyone else (mostly one of her friends) is only thinking about themselves and are egoistic, etc. Try to point out ways that my dad are "misbehaving" (it don't really get to him though, he have just learned to take her for who she is), etc. But for me, right now, it's dreadful to live in. But I have survived so far, and started to be able to have some emotional integrity and enforce boundaries that I need, so I will be alright.
This is my everyday life with her. I am glad that I can start putting up boundaries, before I didn't had the strength/courage/whatever to do so, or maybe I didn't realize that I should do it. Anyway, sign that things are improving. Now I am heading out to the gym
An example:
We are having dinner and afterwards I feel really tired, I go up to my room and she just have to follow into my room and tell me that I need to change the bedding (linnens, etc) in a way that it "needs to be done right now". But now, I have the strength to tell her that "I need to be alone right now for a while", not at all in an aggressive way, just telling the facts, while she become upset and get all "OOOH I AM SO SORRY" and rushes out from the room. This is just an example but it's pretty explanatory for how she is on a regular basis, constantly taking things personally, talking about how everyone else (mostly one of her friends) is only thinking about themselves and are egoistic, etc. Try to point out ways that my dad are "misbehaving" (it don't really get to him though, he have just learned to take her for who she is), etc. But for me, right now, it's dreadful to live in. But I have survived so far, and started to be able to have some emotional integrity and enforce boundaries that I need, so I will be alright.
This is my everyday life with her. I am glad that I can start putting up boundaries, before I didn't had the strength/courage/whatever to do so, or maybe I didn't realize that I should do it. Anyway, sign that things are improving. Now I am heading out to the gym
