12-27-2017, 02:17 PM
(12-26-2017, 08:35 PM)Determined Wrote: "Social failure" also connotes a paradigm in which you are "taking value" where you perceive a social interaction as one in which you either get something out of it or you don't. I personally think this paradigm is flawed when socialising and is probably what holds you back.
To give you an example, I ran DMSI for two days and on day 2 I had a radical paradigm shift in the way I viewed women. I recognised that the paradigm I'd been running my entire life was to be "impressive" to women. This entailed bragging about my achievements, using DHV's (PUA lingo) pumping up my status, etc etc. DMSI encouraged me to replace this with a paradigm of being "arousing" to women instead.
You can see from that example how the paradigm from which a person operates will effect what results they get.
In essence; "when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change"
Never thought of it that way.
