12-22-2017, 10:25 PM
Today in training I got a bit flustered. I was trying to point out an issue I had but everyone was taking it as me just "bashing the training". So I decided to shut my mouth because I didn't know how to communicate in a way that wasn't taken as criticism. It was awful.
Our trainer says to me "Sarge, is there anything else you need? Anything you need explained?" and I just kept my mouth shut and waved my hands in a way that said "I'm not saying anything". Shortly thereafter she printed out a ton of material which helped a bit. So that was good.
I would have liked to be able to communicate my thoughts better though. I have no idea how to do that. People always seem to just take offence. That pattern is starting to annoy me and I know it means I have to change my approach, but I'm not sure what to change it to.
I wanted to tell her that we didn't have time to wait for me to write notes and it would be better to just have all the relevant info printed out, but like I said, they took offense to that suggestion so I just stopped talking.
The tragedy is: if I can't say what I need to say in a way that doesn't cause offense, my needs and thoughts go unheard because I'll just not say anything or people will be too focused on defending themselves than on what I'm actually talking about.
Our trainer says to me "Sarge, is there anything else you need? Anything you need explained?" and I just kept my mouth shut and waved my hands in a way that said "I'm not saying anything". Shortly thereafter she printed out a ton of material which helped a bit. So that was good.
I would have liked to be able to communicate my thoughts better though. I have no idea how to do that. People always seem to just take offence. That pattern is starting to annoy me and I know it means I have to change my approach, but I'm not sure what to change it to.
I wanted to tell her that we didn't have time to wait for me to write notes and it would be better to just have all the relevant info printed out, but like I said, they took offense to that suggestion so I just stopped talking.
The tragedy is: if I can't say what I need to say in a way that doesn't cause offense, my needs and thoughts go unheard because I'll just not say anything or people will be too focused on defending themselves than on what I'm actually talking about.
