Social skills 2.0

[Determined]

Yeah social rejection hurts. I socialize with people at work fine but outside of work I almost have close to no social life outside of social media. I feel like no one reciprocates when I ask them if they want to do things. Then I feel like I try to hard which makes feel even more awkward. UD is helping this but I feel a sub that is specifically designed for improving social skills would work wonders.

Before anyone hangs out with you. They are going to ask what value can I possibly gain from hanging out with this person. I personally think a sub will not assist in bridging this gap. The remedy I believe is to develop a sought after value that people may like, or relentlessly pursue what you enjoy doing outside of meeting friends on social media. A hobby in itself can be value that can attract like minded people.

The value paradigm is actually quite counter productive to meeting people and making new friends. If you're setting the frame that "We're only friends because we're mutually valuable" then it easily falls apart once said value is gone.

I've found that the genuinely best friends I've made and still make are just people in my proximity that I enjoy hanging out with.

So yes the solution to your problem is to become "more valuable" if that is the paradigm with which you choose to view the world.