SargeMaximus: Blooming to Alpha

[SargeMaximus]

Shit, I didn't see this till now. My bad Kalmah!

First let me say thanks for stopping by and offering your viewpoint. I really appreciate it.

I think Shannon was speaking more solely on a sexually-compatible idea of frequency. He specifically uses the terminology "attract the most sexually attractive person possible", meaning your subconscious' idea of the perfect most sexually compatible partner in every feasible way.

This is one of the reasons why I'm out on the DMSI train. I actually don't want just sex. I'd much rather slowly get to know a woman over an extended period of time, let the tension, emotion, and overall bond grow, and then when sex finally comes, I'm hopeful it will be that much better.

I hear you. I'm more of a "friends with benefits" guy. I want the friend/bond/relationship/chemistry part, but I also want the relationship to primarily be about sex.

I have no interest in one night stands. I'd do it if the girl was hot and didn't repulse me (like the one at the bar I wrote about) but I do rather have a girl I can enjoy her company too. Like my hairdresser

My first sexual experience came while blooming from DMSI and also running AM's refresher stage. I was seriously unatttracted to the girl, met her on tinder, had about two drinks with her in the span of an hour before taking her back to my place. Not only was the sex really not that great, but I felt really ***** up and emotionally scarred inside from doing it. Looking back on it, it was actually a negative experience in my life, and not really the slightest bit positive.

That sucks man. But if DMSI is working, I don't see how you could get with a girl who is unattractive to you. So you got with her on your own. Kudos. #SilverLining

If you really seem to be attracted to your HD--which seems to be the case, since it's been almost an entire year and you haven't moved on from her just yet--then DMSI will eventually win out. But AM6 and either SM or WM I'm assuming could have the same desired effect.

Yeah maybe. I hope so. I really like her, she seems to like me, she's got hang ups about our age as far as I can tell, that and her 2 kids are living with her again so logistics are impossible.

It's not oneitis I don't think because it's not like I'm ignoring all other women (I'm trying my best to get more plates spinning lol). But I just believe you can't and shouldn't abandon a good thing. It's not like she's just taking my money (always gives me a discount, and recently gave me an even bigger one because she kept me waiting. So she's not treating me badly).

She's at least open to my touch and touches me (though the crazy ioi's are gone).

All that's left is us getting together which seems to be the real issue. I know guys would say "Bro, she's not interested, move on!" but I'm not losing anything by getting my hair cut by her and flirting.

I would like something physical though. This last month I REALLY been missing her kisses which I remember (thanks DMSI 3.0.1a for that, and Shannon of course! Got me my first makeouts! )

I'm planning on returning to subs very shortly and will be running the AM refresher stage with the express intention of running WM directly after. A lot of my life worries, doubts and fears have been oozing away from me with the help of alternative forms of therapy, and now I'd like to finally become that social magnetic playboy that I've always dreamed about.

Dude, this is GREAT news! Congrats!

If it's not too personal, what therapies have you tried? Which gave you the best results?

I myself have gone to over 10 therapists in my life and none of them really helped, but one of them I really liked. She was very "No BS" with me and I responded well.

DMSI won't help me with that--it just makes you physically and sexually irresistibly attractive, in particular to the type of woman--both personality wise, attractiveness wise, and sexuality-wise (think dom/sub or fetishes and such)--that you are the most sexually compatible with.

I hear you. Thgis is why I think DMSI should have social skills programming.

It could be that your HD fits with your physical standards of attraction, but sexually, subconsciously, she's not compatible. Maybe she's got a hidden fetish, or is more naturally submissive/dominant than you'd like. Your subconscious picked up on this and the anti-sniper is now driving her away, or at least positioning her in a state of flux, where you want her, and are creating on and off again feelings of attraction in her, but you can't seem to get over that hump with her yet because you're not completely compatible.

Maybe, but this just further proves my point that DMSI needs to relax on the anti-sniper. Most people have sex with people and then discover they aren't compatible and move on. If DMSI does this for us, it's robbing us of valuable experiences. Besides, you can't know what you like till you try.

I doubt my HD is a serial killer, so if she is being anti-sniped, there's no good reason for it, imo.

On DMSI, I noticed I became more sexually attractive, in the mirror I could see myself becoming more good looking, but it was in an almsot boy-bandish effeminte way. I noticed that the girls that smiled at me, stared at me, or said "hi" to me as I passed by them on the street wore aggressive styles of makeup. They seemed more aggressive and dominant. I'm much more "submissive" when it comes to sex--I like an aggressive woman who chases the man, I like sexualy aggressive "tigress" types of women who lust after me. But most women in the two cities I've lived in who are physically attractive to me are younger women living in NYC or LA--two of the most vapid, elite places in the world--so most girls my age who I'd be attracted to want "lions" or "alpha males".

I know I'm kind of going off on a tangent here--but I don't think DMSI is desined to get you your "soul mate"--far from that, in fact. It's designed to get you the girl you're most sexually compatible with, at the most raw, primal, carnal level. I think a "soul mate" is more about a woman you bond with just as strongly sexually as you do emotionally. That's exactly what I'm after in my life right now, and I think AM6 and something like WM may do that trick exponentially better than something like DMSI, which, as Mat stated, is purely designed for raw, carnal, sexual attraction.

I hear you. It sucks that you don't have the kinds of girls you want where you live, or at least, when on DMSI, you noticed this fact.

IF DMSI is designed to get you the girl your most sexually compatible with, it's just as bad (IMO) because (as you found) maybe there aren't enough of the girls you click with around you. Maybe (in my case?) there aren't enough of them in the WORLD, so what I'd like is a sub to let me grow as a person, and experience all kinds of girls. DMSI was supposed to get me the girls I find attractive. ME, the girls I want. What's the point if it doesn't accomplish this?

With my HD, we have fun, we make each other laugh, good vibes are had by all. What's wrong with that? Is it perfect? No. Will I marry her? No. But could we have fun with each other? Yes. So why not?

IMO, DMSI may be removing the "why not?" possibility, which is wrong on so many levels.

So maybe it's not "soul-mate or bust" but it may be "perfect/most-compatible or bust" which is just as bad. IMO