10-30-2017, 05:52 AM
(This post was last modified: 10-30-2017, 06:22 AM by Determined.)
Plouf, ideally the sub is used as a tool to improve a person's life (as opposed to a crutch).
Here's the difference:
As a tool: A person would continue to improve all areas of their life with the sub running in the background
As a crutch: A person's sole hope of making it in the world rests upon the sub
Most people here usually fall somewhere in between the two. It's a dangerous trap to only have the sub as one's sole means for self development.
In response to this comment
"And oh, after a year of no subs, I've got promoted at work, starting dating a girl who I'm now planning to get married with, feeling better then ever in life"
Judging by the comment, it seems OP was once a "crutch" user.
The ideology of a crutch user also goes hand in hand with the search for a "magic pill to fix it all" which is delusion. It takes significant time to ingrain one's beliefs, it'd also take significant time to transform out of them. You're right in identifying the unrealistic expectations that also characterises this group.
Evidently, those who use it as a tool succeed in life because they have personal responsibility and self accountability. Nothing to blame but themselves. Which is possibly why OP may be upset at the lack of progress by Shannon.
Here's the difference:
As a tool: A person would continue to improve all areas of their life with the sub running in the background
As a crutch: A person's sole hope of making it in the world rests upon the sub
Most people here usually fall somewhere in between the two. It's a dangerous trap to only have the sub as one's sole means for self development.
In response to this comment
"And oh, after a year of no subs, I've got promoted at work, starting dating a girl who I'm now planning to get married with, feeling better then ever in life"
Judging by the comment, it seems OP was once a "crutch" user.
The ideology of a crutch user also goes hand in hand with the search for a "magic pill to fix it all" which is delusion. It takes significant time to ingrain one's beliefs, it'd also take significant time to transform out of them. You're right in identifying the unrealistic expectations that also characterises this group.
Evidently, those who use it as a tool succeed in life because they have personal responsibility and self accountability. Nothing to blame but themselves. Which is possibly why OP may be upset at the lack of progress by Shannon.
