(08-31-2017, 10:28 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(08-31-2017, 09:52 AM)ReeZoX Wrote: But the "not so social-guy" may have a better chance of getting together with the woman he wants to get with. It all depends on which frame you're coming from.
How did you come to that conclusion?
Based on what I've seen and read
I'll try and make an example. We have Joe and we have Bob. Bob is the loud super-social guy who talks with everyone and is seen as a high-status guy. He always hangs out with the hottest and coolest girls. He is best-friend with Joe.
Joe in this instance is not necessarily anti-social guy, but he's definitely not a social guy. He is social when he wants to and when he actually gives a f*ck, he turns on his "charm".
Pretty much everyone else knows Joe is an "IDGAF" type of guy, and generally doesn't care about other people, or at least not interacting with them. But when he does find a woman who catches his eye. He is able to turn on this charm and show her that she's special. Of course, he still has to do this in ways which are non-needy and all that. But he has the ability of "choosing" people to interact with in a way Bob doesn't have the possibility of since Bob is seen as the "social guy".
This ability to choose makes people feel they're special, and that is something that CAN give Joe the upper-hand in regards to specific people.
Now as a "Bob" you can still make people feel special and all that, it's not a zero-sum game. But in general occasions, Joe will have the upper-hand in charming specific people.
Similar to how looking good/having good fashion can make you get an upper hand when first interacting with new people/women.
