Quote:Yeah I see what you mean. Basically you're saying just don't try to act like a pussy-drowned player when you're actually a virgin, right? However, just because I'm a virgin doesn't mean I can't be confident in myself and be an alpha male, yes?
This is actually one thing that is kind of confusing or that I'm anxious about. Like I'm trying to better myself and be confident, be my own man, be an alpha, lie life on my own terms, and so for example if I tell a girl I'm a virgin, and she is surprised, because it seems I'm confident, attractive, and etc... is that what you would refer to as "doesn't really add up in a girls head"? Or what do you mean?
Is your definition of "doesn't really add up in a girls head" referring to a girl being surprised that a man is a virgin because he is confident and attractive, but reveals he is a virgin? ...or that what he says/does/acts like is of a badass drowned in pussy but is actually a virgin, so she sees his fakeness and non-genuineness after he reveals he is a virgin?
Correct, you can and should be confident and secure within yourself. Being confident and even somewhat cocky and playful will not set off an alarm in a girls head saying something doesnt add up, although yes it may come as a surprise. To clarify, I mean that you would be doing yourself a disservice to act like a pussy slayer and to be overly confident. I am not accusing you of doing any such thing, of course I am only getting your gears turning so you can feel good about whatever course of action you choose. In other words, be genuine - not fake. I see your predicament. You want to have the mindset of someone who has been laid but you can't quite act like that if you havent done it. This is why I am suggesting you may consider just getting it over with, which is a conversation easy to get into and you can quite easily frame it as meaningless but devoid of any player vibe to it since you really are just trying to get it out of the way to get on with yourself. If it really does mean very little to you, the girl you lose it with that is, you can even make a tinder profile saying "yes seriously im a virgin, someone please take this V card from me!" Yeah its a tad tacky but its an option.
