In this for the healing DMSI v3.1 A

[SargeMaximus]

I hear you. I'm very much this way myself. Always wanting to find an "edge", learn all I can about things, try to improve based on what I learn. It can be an obsession for sure.

But I think it's important to realize that if something is working, trying to improve it can f*ck things up. Like trying to put rocket fuel in a common car. It's not going to improve it at all. Even though the principle seems sound (better fuel = better performance, right?) in reality, it's NOT better.

I think better is what is perfect FOR THE SITUATION/or the person, hence why one thing can work for one person and not another.

Having said that, I think the right balance is to do what works, till you find a better way that works. Hard to explai but basically, you don't abandon what works for a theory, if the theory doesn't work in reality. Again: reality (the external results) are the objective truth. At least, that's how I see it.

I don't think an argument could be made for things working that don't produce results.

Now, all this has me thinking of a book I read a while ago. It's actually quite good and focuses on the whole "theory vs. practice" thing. Maybe not entirely about "what is the TRUTH" but it is about that balance I'm talking about.

The book is called "The Inner Game of Tennis"

Yeah you raise a good point. Admittedly that's definitely one of my weaknesses. Too much theory, not enough application. Also probably too much thinking in general.

I'll have to pick up that book too. Looks interesting and like it could apply to a lot of things.

Yeah thinking can be an issue.

I remember when I was first approaching girls in 2015 (not the first time I approached girls, I mean, for the first time that year) I was noticing how in my head I got. "Should I say this? What if she says this? What if this?" it was paralyzing.

The only way out was to physically shake my head, empty my mind, and approach without a single idea of what to say. things go better that way I find. And you only learn through doing.

Inner Game of Tennis touches on that too, how to balance learning vs. doing. It's one I have to buy again because I gave my other copy away to my cousin.

Lol, that's hilarious. I'm not surprised at all. XD

Hmm, your "bored" outlook is similar (I think) to how mine is when I'm not in a creative/productive state.

The solution for me wasn't to search for alternative realities, but to find that spark of passion and emotional engagement with others and my work/mission.

Once I did that, things became awesome again. I didn't get all my dreams and wishes lol, that would be BS, what I did get was a 3D and in full color experience of life vs a bland, black and white model.

I think it just has to do with focus and having lost your way.

Perhaps you need to re-connect with the things you love to experience/do.

That's definitely something I can relate to. Yeah my life has been very monotonous lately. I'm working a part time retail job so the scheduling is erratic and makes it hard to plan. Been focusing on getting up on my feet financially and landing a better job, but it hasn't left me much room for my music which is what I care about the most. I guess I've just been trying to escape the reality of things because my values and the culture I'm surrounded by don't align with them. Basically trying to figure out how I can be happy doing my own thing vs following what everyone else says I should do. Again theory vs application, ideas aren't worth a damn if they can't be implemented into my life otherwise I could spend all day daydreaming about stuff.

Exactly.

I definitely hear you. All my life people been telling me I'm wrong about this, that, or the other thing, but when I consider the source (usually beta males) it becomes clear it's not about me.

The problem with a "job" is that you can become insulated from reality. Very easy to become a mindless drone. It's why I like sales. You're constantly getting feedback on yourself via the kind of results you are generating. It forces you to change, grow, and engage. That and it's very much aligned with my core values (freedom, among others)

Perhaps if you found a way to connect with your job and the people around you in the same way you connect with your music?