I'm just a sexy boy... DMSI 3.1

[Shannon]

Your experience with healthy (Edit: health-ier is probably more accurate, haha) women doesn't seem to be more than mine, having read what you wrote. You're a wise man, but sometimes those who are intelligent have a hard time admitting they need to change their own views. I'm sure it's lonely at the top - there just aren't many people who have things to say that can make you reevaluate your own position. If you want to stay with your views because of all your experience, obviously feel free.

The definition(s) I found of cynical is:

1. believing that people are motivated by self-interest; distrustful of human sincerity or integrity.

2. concerned only with one's own interests and typically disregarding accepted or appropriate standards in order to achieve them.

I think that definition covers the opinion you displayed pretty well. It doesn't have to be the extreme example you laid out in your reply.

I don't see how I fit #2 at all.

But... the fact that I found a woman I can trust should tell you that I did change my views. That's why I stopped choosing/attracting the women who were cheating/etc.

I'm just not convinced that "healthy" women are any less motivated to "be good" by fear, guilt or shame, or that they would do anything different if they were not. The only thing that matters in this is maturity - only a mature person (some might say soul) will do good without guilt, shame and/or fear as a motivation, as far as I have been able to ascertain.

And having been through what I have... I can say there are precious few such mature people.