07-13-2017, 07:30 AM
(07-13-2017, 06:47 AM)RTBoss Wrote: You're going to have to decide for yourself if "sacrificing" your desire to sleep around is worth the commitment and love you want to share with this woman. If she is the "love of your life," is it really sacrifice if what you gain holds more value than what you've given up?
You're still young, and you're not married - yet. You could enjoy a few years with her, and then perhaps something happens and it doesn't work out. Who knows? Then you can have a few years of gallivanting, if that's what you want. Or, you'll find you're relieved you didn't go sleeping around and fully committed yourself to her.
When I think about what I'm "missing out on," while married, I simply remember back to the times I had sex with women I had no feelings for. The excitement leading up to, and the short time during, completely disappeared following the experience - and I truly felt as if I had merely rubbed one out. There is truly no better sexual experience than sleeping with a woman you share a loving bond with.
That's just my experience.
And this statement right here, is why I consider RT the rock, no, the mountain of this forum.
No truer words have been written.
Ichigo, I chose a direction in my life, and as I stated, it was a selfish direction that resulted in me hurting people along the way, yet, I got what I wanted out of it in the end.
Now, I said in my previous post, you have to look at where you want to be later in your life.
I've slept with over 100 women, yet have no commitments and at the end of the day, it was just sex.
RT has the love of his life, a beautiful family, and his intimate experiences with his wife are uniquely special.
If you love your girlfriend, I would take what RT posted and use that as a guiding mantra.
Love, will always trump sex. And believe me, after a while, having sex with a hot woman becomes the equivalent of just having another hole to bang. Notches are just notches.
Again, my two cents. Whatever you do, make sure it will make you happy in the long run.
