I'm just a sexy boy... DMSI 3.1

[Duke.Togo]

It's better to hurt her a little today than to hurt her a lot tomorrow.

If you've got an itch that you haven't scratched, you need to scratch it first. Otherwise, at some point down the road, no matter how much you love your girlfriend, you're going to resent not having the experiences you've wanted.

It's better that you take the break and go do what you want. At least that way you'll know for sure.

My unsought two-cents for you...

Thanks for the advice Duke!

My concern is if we take this break, I sleep with a few girls, and then we get back together, won't our relationship forever be tainted and won't she always resent that it happened?

I'm even considering the better option would be to take our conversation as implied consent for sleeping with other women, and to do it and not tell her. In that way I get the experiences, and if she never finds out then her feelings don't get hurt.

But then I don't think I could look at her the same way with a lie like that hanging over me. So it's probably better to just leave it.

You can choose to leave her in the dark, but I agree, that would ruin your relationship with her completely, and would definitely break her heart if she ever found out the wrong way.

Here's where I can give you a perspective from age. I'm 41 now, I'm fairly sure you're a lot younger than I am. When I look back at my life, I don't have any regrets, partially because I made sure that I wouldn't by doing anything and everything that I wanted to do. It was an incredibly selfish way to live, and I wrongly hurt some people along the way. However, in the end it turned out for the best for all involved.

What you have to ask yourself is, 5, 10, 15 years from now, are you going to regret the fact that you hurt your girlfriend or that you didn't experience everything you wanted to.

There is no right or wrong answer, only what is right or wrong for you.

At the end of the day, you have to live with your decisions and their consequences.