(05-17-2017, 01:51 PM)Nox Wrote:(05-17-2017, 01:42 PM)Greenduck Wrote:(05-16-2017, 07:36 AM)Daredevil Wrote:(05-14-2017, 11:37 PM)Greenduck Wrote: I more and more realize that I seriously have a big problem with my mom. And I'm not the guy who have problems with people in general, even when I'm feeling like shit.
She are always angry when she get up, slams doors, are needy, when she doesn't get attention she get upset, angry. She is judgemental, loud, feel sorry for herself, act as a victim.
A normal day I get it, she is my mom and you only have one mom. But seriously, man even I have to be able to not always have to look for the best in people all the f*cking time, because this behavior really get on my nerve and ruin my days sometime. A person acting like that need to get their shit together, seriously. F*ck me. I just want to chill and have a good time when I'm home at my parents, not get dragged into her moodiness.
And I hate being this sensitive to all shit. On a normal day this would be "so my mom is really annoying, whatever". This is not me.
You need to Look at the Devouring Mother Archetype. It might help you understand what is happening here.
Thanks, I'll looked into it and it's pretty spot on for the context.
Things said before laid aside, there is one thing that is puzzling me and I can't get to understand it:
My mother acts different towards me. I'm the same person as before (beside that I'm slow in my thinking, but emotionally I'm the same person. I feel the same as usual. But the relationship is different, the best description I can give is that it's "off". Same goes with some other friends, it's just "off", like they see a different person then what they are used to and not sure how to act. And I try to compensate to show them that they don't need to and well..that doesn't work. It's a moment 22-issue.
Hopefully it's pass, but I just think it's weird.
Furthermore, my head feels disconnected from the body. Like my head is one person and my body another. Slowly they are coming together, but it's still some separation going on.
Silence is golden. If silence ensues, which it always does as people begin to notice you've changed, just be silent if they're not actively communicating. Don't think you have to keep conversations going. I'm usually very quiet anymore, and when I speak people listen.
Yeah well as I have problems with my thinking (so conversations doesn't become so easy) I'm often quiet, but not by choice rather than by circumstances. But it's to bad, silence is boring, and it's hard to exchange information and keeping conversation with it
But I agree, silence is truly golden.
