05-01-2017, 12:02 PM
(05-01-2017, 10:43 AM)OberynMartell Wrote:(04-29-2017, 01:52 PM)Broski Wrote: Thanks for the words of encouragement man, its just been pretty tough for me lately.
Hearing about your and other success though and how their lives are the best theyve ever been definitely gives me hope though. Just ogtta keep truckin forward
Id love to learn to just "let go" of all my wants and expectations. Sounds like itd be so freeing but in practice ive found it very hard to actually do. Do you have any more specific tips for how you were able to change your thinking in that way?
Had to think about this one. How did I do it? I guess it's easier said than done, but I'm going to use my former self as an example.
You see, not even 3 years ago I went clubbing with only one thing in mind: to get laid! So I was searching and looking for the perfect girl, staring like a wild coyote at his prey. Success rate: <1%. I had a goal in mind, and everything I did was for that purpose.
Now, whenever I go out, I have only one thing on my mind: to have fun and making people around me enjoy their evening even more. No end-goal, no awkward conversations about things that you don't care about. Just have fun and smile at the world. That is how I did it, but it was not an easy road. With the subs things were getting easier though. The most important thing is to get in that mindset. I do it with stand up comedy, just putting on a good show and have a great time even before going out the door. Do things you like and people around you tend to notice that.
Now I'm going to quit writing, because I'm noticing that I'm rambling on and on!
I appreciate the insight my man. Funnily enough I know a few of the nights I wasnt trying at all with girls in the past year and a half or so is the few times I have attracted the most attractive girls. Definitely easier said than done like you said but I will try to practice just having more fun with no end result in mind more often