12-29-2011, 03:48 PM
Thanks for the Zan videos, I will watch them in a minute.
As for feeling like there is less available women for you. I'm not sure.
What initially pops into my head maybe these are the ones already with somebody or some crap is going on in their lives so their not really available. I personally would rather attract girls that aren't with somebody as I always seem to get attraction and attention from girls that are taken and I don't know why, but it is frustrating!
It seems to be a hard thing to realize (for me too). I can compare this to back when I have been overnice and not really sexual with women, i've talked to more of them for longer, but not really got anywhere and felt bad for not making a move.
From minimal game and something else I read, being seen as a 'sexual threat' is good because it weeds out the uninterested ones. The girls who you would waste your time with because they like attention and will talk to you if you don't show interest or be sexual.
It's hard for my ego and it seems somewhere in my mind i'd rather have the approval of them talking to me for longer and feel like I get somewhere than be a 'sexual threat' and weed out the uninterested ones until I get one who wants me.
And obviously the second one is much more effective. In minimal game he recommends building the tension, such as invading their space a little more than usual, touching them, or a simple one of grabbing their hand and stroking it.
And the thing is, he says the one not attracted to you will probably see you as 'creepy' but the ones who are attracted to you will see it as you being confident and sexy.
Interesting isn't it.
But I just know this logically, my emotions and beliefs still have to catch up. But it really makes alot of sense and i'm sick of wasting time talking and not knowing with certain girls.
-Ben
As for feeling like there is less available women for you. I'm not sure.
What initially pops into my head maybe these are the ones already with somebody or some crap is going on in their lives so their not really available. I personally would rather attract girls that aren't with somebody as I always seem to get attraction and attention from girls that are taken and I don't know why, but it is frustrating!
Quote:4. Approaching woman has not become easier-in a way its become harder in a way, I come across as even more of a threat now its seems.
It seems to be a hard thing to realize (for me too). I can compare this to back when I have been overnice and not really sexual with women, i've talked to more of them for longer, but not really got anywhere and felt bad for not making a move.
From minimal game and something else I read, being seen as a 'sexual threat' is good because it weeds out the uninterested ones. The girls who you would waste your time with because they like attention and will talk to you if you don't show interest or be sexual.
It's hard for my ego and it seems somewhere in my mind i'd rather have the approval of them talking to me for longer and feel like I get somewhere than be a 'sexual threat' and weed out the uninterested ones until I get one who wants me.
And obviously the second one is much more effective. In minimal game he recommends building the tension, such as invading their space a little more than usual, touching them, or a simple one of grabbing their hand and stroking it.
And the thing is, he says the one not attracted to you will probably see you as 'creepy' but the ones who are attracted to you will see it as you being confident and sexy.
Interesting isn't it.
But I just know this logically, my emotions and beliefs still have to catch up. But it really makes alot of sense and i'm sick of wasting time talking and not knowing with certain girls.
-Ben
