Bring out the humanity in yourself and this will not be a problem anymore, realize that you are two people talking, and not just a guy and a girl. Forget the dynamics for a moment and everything about how to act to produce some kind of outcome. Take a moment and live from your heart.
Fear can come from things/conversations feeling artificial, when we no longer can trust our feelings. It's basically a case of not trusting the other person with your own emotions, raising a number of questions.
- What is the other person on the other side want?
- Have he some kind of agenda?
- Will he try to use my emotions against me?
- Is he trying to figure me out, and why is he doing so?
When we relax, we act naturally and enjoy things as they come, rather than seek out an agenda and from the trust can be built. Silence then don't raise questions, but is a natural silence, where we don't have to worry about what the other person is thinking, it's just a pause in the conversation. Try asking questions from a place of genuine interest, you don't have to become soulmates with the other person, but get to know them better. What are their favorite movies? What kind of food do they like?
Fear can come from things/conversations feeling artificial, when we no longer can trust our feelings. It's basically a case of not trusting the other person with your own emotions, raising a number of questions.
- What is the other person on the other side want?
- Have he some kind of agenda?
- Will he try to use my emotions against me?
- Is he trying to figure me out, and why is he doing so?
When we relax, we act naturally and enjoy things as they come, rather than seek out an agenda and from the trust can be built. Silence then don't raise questions, but is a natural silence, where we don't have to worry about what the other person is thinking, it's just a pause in the conversation. Try asking questions from a place of genuine interest, you don't have to become soulmates with the other person, but get to know them better. What are their favorite movies? What kind of food do they like?
