11-20-2011, 12:46 PM
(11-20-2011, 07:30 AM)benjamin Wrote: Cool Matt, I like it! Sounds like good results.
I really am being inspired to start Alpha again myself. The other night we were going for a cruise and I was driving, went with 4 friends. My mates sex friend come along, she asked me "can I plug my ipod into your cd player in your car" and I was like "umm.." (because I was thinking of where my cord was to connect it) and my friend goes "no, Ben is an alpha male, he doesn't let anyone use his stuff" or something like that. And I just stopped and let him say it, then ignored it and continued "if the cord is in my car, you can use it" as all the cd's in my car I am sick of. But then it upset me later, not knowing why he said it. Funny because when I was going through the Alpha set, I seen him ALOT less than before that. See him a little more now that it balanced out.
He knows I used to study alot of pua stuff, and when I only had dialup i'd get alot of stuff on his computer as his internet was fast, so I had a folder of stuff about pua, becoming an alpha male etc. So I thought it was giving me shit about that.
I actually started getting annoyed thinking he said it because i'm not alpha at all, which I don't feel I am, I am a bit improved, but I now am more inspired to start Alpha again, aswell as a book that is highly recommended "No More Mr Nice Guy". Which I like over "Become an Alpha Male" by Joseph Alexander.
I'd recommend you have a look at that book. http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/
I'm actually going to start reading it again now that i've reminded myself.
-Ben
I read that book a while back, it definitely was an eye opening book. Too much self help is full of puppies and rainbows, I think it causes others to walk all over you. That book was straight to the point.
I gotta admit your friend's joke caused me to laugh a little just because it's so absurd. If one of my friends said that about me I'd just be able to laugh it off and not care because I know it's not true. But the reason he said it was probably just to get approval from others. Let me ask you something, does this guy only make jokes about you when you are with a group of people? He sounds like a guy that would be alright when you are with him one on one, but when he gets in a group he acts like a different person. The whole competing for attention thing and feeling pressure of not being left out.
Ben, I think the fact that this guy made a joke about you to lower your value just shows that he's insecure around you. I used to get caught up in the "I'm not alpha" thinking, but once you run through alpha again you will care less and less. Interestingly enough, the less you care the more alpha you appear! It's such a paradox, but you really start to feel like an alpha male so you don't have to prove it to yourself.
Don't let those jokes get to you. They aren't about you. It's about the person that's telling them. No matter how confident a person appears on the outside, the one tell tale sign of insecurity is when they make jokes at the expense of others.
