DMSI v2.5

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Shannon,

Another recent phenomenon. I'm noticing more and more that women are doing the "counter defense". They put an object between me and them. Usually, I think that's an indication of needing security, comfort, or protection. Yet these are the same women who will look at me in a dreamy sort of way as they talk with me from behind the counter.

Does the aura need more comfort? Is this another example of the aura being lopsided? I don't know, but I'd appreciate your thoughts because I always worry it's something I'm doing wrong rather than I'm more sexy or they need to "get control" of their intense sexual feelings and so forth.

Shannon,

I appreciate your input. Based on what you wrote, I'm thinking about some other things. If you could give some input on some more points.

1) As I'm thinking about this... A number of these women who have done "counter defense" tend to be on the shy side I think. For others, it just started recently. Say 5 days ago, maximum. In fact, there was a time in the not so distant past with v2.5 when women were standing REALLY close to me. Less than 12 inches. Some even inches away from me. Some were even "accidentally" touching me quite a bit. Now, the "counter defense" has started in full force.

2) Men seem to feel REALLY at ease and comfortable around me. Like I'm a good friend. Again this is a fairly recent phenomenon.

3) Women seem to need to move around. Some even start doing what I would call "slow agitation". They will seem to move about slowly and randomly in an area of about 2 square feet and act a bit playful and maybe even childish, and sometimes look at random areas rather than making eye contact with me or being focused on any one thing. Like their minds are wandering. They even start saying spontaneous simple things such as "I like this" or "I don't like that". (Any thoughts about what that means?)

4) Now back to the "counter defense". While it's entirely possible that it could be all about her not trusting herself or her wanting to hide, let's put the ball firmly in my court.

Let's suppose for a moment that it's that she doesn't trust me; since it's about me I can control it perhaps. I can change what I might be doing; I can't control her trusting her self (at least I don't think I can...). So let's direct this back to me.

What might you recommend I do to make it so she can trust me more?

I know you don't know me well, but if you have any input, I'd appreciate it.

IMO it's not a matter of trust but rather intimidation, not in a bad way but they're intimidated in the same way you may be intimidated if a super model was eying you up. Most guys would probably freeze up, become introverted, etc.

In regards to #2 I would place that under the "respect" category - this is often the case with sexual pheromones or subliminals like am6 or sm3. Guys pick up that you must be good with women so they can either view you as a threat or an ally, most of the time it will be an ally hence the buddy buddy behavior.

The fidgeting and impulsive talking are also signs of attraction/arousal, it's probably a way to get your attention without being obvious about it due to the intimidation factor. They want you to notice but if you did it an overt way they would turn shy/introverted so this approach feels safer for them.