11-07-2016, 10:40 PM
(11-07-2016, 10:17 PM)CatMan Wrote:(11-07-2016, 10:03 PM)Benjamin Wrote: 'Killing them with kindness' definately isn't the answer. That would make sense if you think that's effective that you've ended up in the friendzone.
If they are being bitches they don't deserve your kindness.
You misunderstood me.
When I say that, I'm not talking about being a doormat. It isn't binary, be a doormat, or be an asshole. There's a ton of wiggle room in between, especially for a high value guy that will sometimes attract girls that won't understand really what they're dealing with. And if they are insecure due to being attracted to you and bringing out insecurities inside themselves, they can show it acting this way or by doing a "test" to see if you're the real deal as women naturally do, to separate the men from the boys. I'm simply talking about when you can clearly sense some insecurity in a girl, she isn't a bitch, just insecure/awkward and acts this way or testing you. You can feel the difference in situations. Being approachable, genuine, kind to them quickly lets them know you're not arrogant or thinking you're above them, you're able to connect with, there isn't a reason to be insecure, and boom you're past it.
It's very effective. This kind of thing rarely happens to me though, because I consciously make sure as much as possible not to put out an arrogant "I'm better than you" vibe. But every time it has popped up due to a girl's insecurity, I've quickly turned it around acting fast with social calibration like this.
Spot on.
