@chaosvrgn
I know what you're talking about. I prefer to be kind at first. But you are right, sending those dual messages can work.
But yes, it goes back to what @bits said about trying to knock you down a peg. It's like women are engaged in a power/status battle with you. They award themselves points in their own head by evoking emotions from you and/or lowering your status (out framing you, putting you down, saying something that you just don't get, etc.). One upmanship at a verbal and emotional level.
I also find just being or appearing uneffected or unimpressed works. I discovered it by accident when in high school. Since I didn't know what was going on, I just listened and eventually she would get exhausted and mad because I looked so calm, then she gave up. I didn't realize that I had "won" I was just glad it was over.
Also, thank you for such thoughtful answers. They are often very sobering when I get annoyed at things.
I know what you're talking about. I prefer to be kind at first. But you are right, sending those dual messages can work.
But yes, it goes back to what @bits said about trying to knock you down a peg. It's like women are engaged in a power/status battle with you. They award themselves points in their own head by evoking emotions from you and/or lowering your status (out framing you, putting you down, saying something that you just don't get, etc.). One upmanship at a verbal and emotional level.
I also find just being or appearing uneffected or unimpressed works. I discovered it by accident when in high school. Since I didn't know what was going on, I just listened and eventually she would get exhausted and mad because I looked so calm, then she gave up. I didn't realize that I had "won" I was just glad it was over.
Also, thank you for such thoughtful answers. They are often very sobering when I get annoyed at things.
