11-07-2016, 02:29 PM
I wanted to add something but I wanted it to be a separate post to highlight a new idea, or new set of ideas.
I usually get treated with respect and kindness, so to see snarkiness so consistently was very odd. Even odder that it was across situations and women. Not men, just women. Men were actually very kind and respectful to me that day. So Shannon, is there something in the DMSI that makes the user appear "out of a woman's league"?
Also there is the rapidly decreasing interest in pursuing women. It's almost as though I don't ^&%*ing care any more. It's liberating, yet scary because I worry that if I don't focus on women, how will I find them? When I had a great dating life, it's because I was consistently putting in effort. When the effort declined, the women disappeared. So the lack of motivation to invest time in meeting women is something I have mixed feelings about.
There also seems to be a repelling effect in DMSI. I've seen at least 2 kinds. The first is that women who may not match my type (personality or physically) stay away or shun me or leave quickly. The second is that I think women who are superficial or feel empty inside or are scared of emotional intimacy or don't feel they have anything to offer... I don't know how best to say it... women such as that seem to lose interest in me quickly, especially if I follow up on their spontaneous self disclosures by finding a connection with them or expressing interest in who they are as a person. It's like any fun, excitement, attraction, etc. immediately shuts off and there is little chance of recovery.
Any one who wants to give input, please do. I feel I'm in a dark forest and could use a bit of light and guidance.
I usually get treated with respect and kindness, so to see snarkiness so consistently was very odd. Even odder that it was across situations and women. Not men, just women. Men were actually very kind and respectful to me that day. So Shannon, is there something in the DMSI that makes the user appear "out of a woman's league"?
Also there is the rapidly decreasing interest in pursuing women. It's almost as though I don't ^&%*ing care any more. It's liberating, yet scary because I worry that if I don't focus on women, how will I find them? When I had a great dating life, it's because I was consistently putting in effort. When the effort declined, the women disappeared. So the lack of motivation to invest time in meeting women is something I have mixed feelings about.
There also seems to be a repelling effect in DMSI. I've seen at least 2 kinds. The first is that women who may not match my type (personality or physically) stay away or shun me or leave quickly. The second is that I think women who are superficial or feel empty inside or are scared of emotional intimacy or don't feel they have anything to offer... I don't know how best to say it... women such as that seem to lose interest in me quickly, especially if I follow up on their spontaneous self disclosures by finding a connection with them or expressing interest in who they are as a person. It's like any fun, excitement, attraction, etc. immediately shuts off and there is little chance of recovery.
Any one who wants to give input, please do. I feel I'm in a dark forest and could use a bit of light and guidance.
