(09-04-2011, 05:32 AM)Shannon Wrote: Mat, one thing I'd like to point out is that some people would disagree with you that something must be accepted before it can be released, and that release is a by product of acceptance. It is that belief that has you accepting the emotions (which means the subliminal is working, because you're accepting them before letting go and freeing yourself of them) and getting this initial negative experience.
Understand that your issues are going to need whatever you need them to need before they can be released. In some cases, acceptance will be required. But that is not universal, and that meme can become a chain around your neck if you apply it to everything unthinkingly. It's little gotchas like these that we must watch for, because they can be detrimental instead of helpful if we're not careful. Likewise, I can't say whether it applies for you or not in each case, because I am not you. I just want you to see, and thus be able to deal with, that meme in the best possible way.
Our beliefs are our prison, or our liberation, depending on what they are. The truth is, all the prison bars are self inflicted by our own beliefs, and sometimes we hold them in place because they make us feel secure in their restrictions. But sometimes, we simply don't realize that "Hey - this is an illusion created as a result of my own accepted beliefs!"
Sounds like you're getting good results from the sub though.
Well Shannon ya got me lol. This is one of my flaws, I try to find universal things that connect, a one size fits all type of thing. What you said about holding onto beliefs to feel secure is 100 percent what I do. It's landed me into trouble more times than I can count in my life and perpetuates this need for control and understanding things.
You are right about this meme because when I think about it I really am putting restrictions on myself. I mean it's perfectly reasonable to detach from negative emotions without accepting them first, but it feels wrong and I know that's what holds me back.
This also makes me aware of something else. I try to deal with these negative emotions consciously, when I should just forget about it and let the subliminal take care of it. After all the subconscious mind is way more powerful. It's that control factor, I feel like I need to have control over my emotions or my negative beliefs and I try to achieve it through conscious means which just fails horribly. It's probably from my history of practicing mindfulness and buddhist teachings. While good, sometimes I just want everything to be on autopilot from having the right beliefs internalized.
Some days when I wake up and I don't feel good I feel like I should do something about it. Let it go, accept it, etc., but I'm starting to think I just control too much. I put too much pressure on myself and I just need to learn that I can't control all the time. Also that the subliminal is going to do it's job, regardless of my conscious involvement. In a way I guess I still have my doubts about subliminals and that prevents me from trusting them and knowing that everything will be ok. I think it's this mindset that hinders my growth because I'm afraid of going back to that dark place. I always feel like I'm one step ahead of that place and one mistake or bad day can cause me to come crashing back down into it and then I have to pull myself out again.
There's negativity inside of me and there are issues that need to be addressed. What it is, I don't know. But I do know life shouldn't be a constant struggle. If I'm still having struggles that means I've still got issues and I need to understand that. I feel like I try instead of just being and that's how I know something isn't right.
Just found this
http://blog.beliefnet.com/beyondblue/201...-work.html
Quote:What her doctor’s told her was when you are in the eye of a depressive episode, “distract, don’t think.”
When we’re really depressed, the mind is searching for things “to do” in order to get us out. However, this is a trap, especially when we’re really depressed. The harder we try, the more stuck we get.
Why?
Because it’s a set up.
The moment we’re reaching for mindfulness practices as a means to an end, as a means in that moment to feel better, get out of depression, or achieve calm, is the moment our minds develop the rule: “If I don’t see any relief come from this, then I am a failure, or there must be something wrong with me.”
It talks about medication, but if I substitute that medication for subliminals this all makes perfect sense in my case. I've found on the days that I'm really down just doing something that I enjoy is better than trying to sit down and meditate. I try too hard and I'm too hard on myself for something that is for the most part out of my control.
