DMSI Journey

[JackOfHearts]

I'm not trying to be an @ss BUT.....didn't your STBXW treat you like a "friend" in the bedroom, and you weren't fine with that.

Why settle for that again?

You live in a world of abundance....

Remember your goal!!

Yes! Right!
Thanks dude thats exactly the kind of thing I need to hear. Thanks for the reminder!

I honestly have no idea how to initiate a one night stand, having never done it before. I never know whats appropriate or not. I stole a few kisses, told them I think they're beautiful etc, but I'm always having to be careful of drawing the line between charming and creepy. I don't know what to do, which is why I still haven't got laid yet.

I asked a girl if she wanted to come back to my motel room once, she didn't slap me but made it clear I was friend-zoned. I don't know under what conditions its appropriate to pop that question, or how to bring about such conditions.

I never tell a girl directly that I want to have sex with her when I don't know her yet. I always do it indirectly, then I push in the direction I want them to be. For example instead of inviting her to your hotel you could told her to come see a movie or something, listening to a music, or showing her something. Then you proceed to escalate, I never tell them directly I want to kiss or I want to have sex. Some girl don't care about it, they will respond well even if you ask directly but some won't. Even if I had sex with girl already I usually avoid to ask her directly for sex, I just kiss her still she can't hold it together or I caress her in the right direction. Usually girls don't like to be asked for sex even if they want to. At the same time for you it's easier, you don't have to have an awkward conversation about it.

The problem when you ask directly is that you offer her a choice, and most girls will take the safest answer. When you act instead of talking you already did it so she is more likely to comply, she still have a choice to refuse but she has less responsibility, she can put all the blame on you, her reputation is safe, she is not wh**re who says yes to every guy. In this circumstances she can say she was caught in the moment, she doesn't have to think, it just happened.