DMSI Journey

[chaosvrgn]

Thanks guys I appreciate that.

This girl is a little confusing. She knows I've totally got the hots for her but hasn't made it any less ambiguous whether or not this is going to go further. Yet she is still happy to go do heaps of stuff together like badminton, rock climbing, try out a bunch of restaurants and generally spend heaps of time alone together. My guess is that she's leaving the door wide open for it to develop into something sexual but she doesn't want to go too fast. I'm open to that. She's an awesome woman.

However as long as I'm not her boyfriend, there's nothing to be loyal about. When it is, I will be. Am I missing something? She told me straight up she isn't going to sleep with me and just wants to be friends. Then when I tell her I like her for who she is and am not just trying to get in her pants she behaves like she wants to be best-friends-forever. As far as I can see it at face value, that's exactly all I should expect and I should enjoy it for what it is. It's great to have a friend like that, I'm not complaining. I might ask her if she has any friends who want a foreigner for a boyfriend. Am I wrong here or am I missing something? I don't understand women very well.

She's not being confusing at all. She told you straight to your face that you're now in the friendzone. If you don't want to be in the friendzone, you have two choices at this point. One -- Let her know that you're not interested in just being friends, and if she wants to continue spending time with you, she'll have to break off some of that poonanny. Two -- If you want to just be her friend and think you can handle it, just be her friend. Limit your investment, both financially and emotionally. Don't get oneitis. You're a free man now, there's no reason why you should get stuck on a single woman at this point. Go out, explore. Have some fun.

Funny thing is, the moment she sees you with other women, she's suddenly going to develop feelings for you.